Monday, November 30, 2015

NaBloPoMo Wrap-up

It's the last day of November, and time for a little reflection on my personal NaBloPoMo experiment:

1. I wrote 23 out of 30 days. Not too bad; a few of the non-writing days were because of out-of-town guests, a couple of the others were simply because I needed to separate myself and process everything that was going on in the world. I am really happy with my totals, though, because it was more than I ever thought I would/could write, and it pushed me.

2. Given the world/national events, most of my posts were of a decidedly political bent, which is ok, because I'm tired of being quiet on things. I have a format where I can share my thoughts with lots of people, and it would be a waste to not speak my mind. I'm still not sure if I'm going to split the content into two blogs--one more bookish--but for now, I'm going to stick with the one.

3. That being said, I do want to write more bookish content, if only for my own sanity. I've read some amazing books this year, and other than updates and wrap-ups, I haven't talked much about them. I've started doing some book tags (ideas originated on BookTube), and while I like doing those, I'd like to do some more original content as well.

4. I'm going to be working on the quality of posts I put up as well. Most of them are spur-of-the-moment bursts, rather than well-planned out ones, and while those have their place, I am capable of higher-quality writing.

5. I probably won't keep up this pace for the next month; December is always crazy with family and friends and travel and gift-buying. . . I'm still going to try to post two a week at least.

Thanks for taking this journey with me!






Sunday, November 29, 2015

Rabbit Hole #27: Top 10 (+2) Most Owned Authors

Once again, stealing an idea from the wonderful Jen Campbell, these are my top 10 most owned authors. Those of you who know me well will not be surprised by the top 3 at all.

Honorable Mention with 7 books each: (Interestingly, these are the only two men on this list.)

C. S. Lewis: Lewis is a bit of a cheat, since all 7 of his are the Chronicles of Narnia series, but since they are separate books...

F. Scott Fitzgerald: I love Fitzgerald and wish he had lived long enough to continue writing. I think the only thing I don't own right now is The Last Tycoon, which was the book he was working on when he died.

Tied with 8 books each (#10-8)
J. K. Rowling: Again, a bit of a cheat since seven are the Harry Potter books, but I also have her first adult novel The Casual Vacancy, which was okay, but not up to the level of the Potter books.

Margaret Atwood: I am just scratching the surface with Atwood. I love her dystopian novels,   especially The Handmaid's Tale and the MADDADDAM series, but I'm anxious to dive into her poetry and short stories soon.

Louise Erdrich: Her stories about life on the reservation in North Dakota and the interweaving narratives throughout her novels have kept me hooked since I first read Love Medicine. She has a new novel coming out in May, which I am very excited for. Like Atwood, she has poetry and short fiction out that I need to read, as well as children's fiction.

#7 with 9 books
Barbara Kingsolver: The Poisonwood Bible is one of my all-time favorite books. I also really love her nonfiction as well; her background in biology and ecology is fascinating.

#6 with 10 books
Toni Morrison: It's Toni Morrison. She's the godmother of modern literature. Enough said.

#5 with 12 books
A. S. Byatt: I fell in love with Byatt's writing when I read Possession. She blends historical fiction with literature with myth with a bit of magical realism...well, you get the point.

#4 with 13 books
Charlaine Harris: Once again, this is all one series. I loved the HBO series True Blood, and decided to read the Sookie Stackhouse books it was based on. These were fun and quick reads, good for getting out of reading slumps or days where you didn't want to have to think to hard about what you were reading.

#3 with 17 books
Virginia Woolf: I haven't read Woolf in a while, to be honest. I think I'm still on a bit of a hangover after writing my master's thesis on her. Her writing is frank, experimental, forward-thinking, and thought-provoking, and I've read almost everything she's written except her diaries, which is where I might head next.

#2 with 22 books
Alice Walker: I absolutely adore Alice Walker. It started, naturally, with The Color Purple, but I've devoured almost everything she's written--novels, poetry, essays, memoirs--the only thing I haven't read are her children's books. You are always forced to look at the world around you and your own beliefs when reading her books.

And, of course...

#1 with 29 books
Anne Rice: I fell in love with Rice in high school, and haven't looked back. For me, her knowledge of history weaving in and out of tales of witches, vampires, ghosts, and werewolves is the most intriguing part of her tales. I also love her two non-paranormal historical novels as well: Cry to Heaven and The Feast of All Saints.  


So there you have it, my top 10 (+2) most owned authors! (Hey, if the Big Ten can have 14 schools in it, I can have 12 in my top 10 list!)



















Saturday, November 28, 2015

Rabbit Hole #26: Read Harder Challenge 2015 Update--November

I have finished the Book Riot Read Harder Challenge 2015, but I'm going to keep adding to it for the next two months, just to see where I end up. 

Here's my list so far:  
(This month's reads are in blue.)

1. A book written by someone when they were under 25: 
Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Beasts of No Nation by Uzodinma Iweala

2. A book written by someone when they were over the age of 65: 
God Help the Child by Toni Morrison
Lucrezia Borgia by Sarah Bradford

3. A collection of short stories:
Ten Little Indians by Sherman Alexie
Krik? Krak! by Edwidge Danticat

4. A book published by an indie press: 
The Salt Roads by Nalo Hopkinson (Open Roads Media Sci-Fi and Fantasy)
Citizen: An American Lyric by Claudia Rankine (Grey Wolf Press)
On Immunity by Eula Biss (Grey Wolf Press)

5. A book by or about someone who identifies as LGBTQIA: 
We Are the Animals by Justin Torres
Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz
Golden Boy by Abigail Tarttelin
Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa by Rigoberto Gonzalez


6. A book by someone of a different gender than you: 
Shooting Victoria: Madness, Mayhem, and the Rebirth of the British Monarchy 
by Paul Thomas Murphy 
Half-Resurrection Blues by Daniel José Older
Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman

7. A book that takes place in Asia: 
The Lowland by Jhumpa Lahiri
A Tale for the Time Being by Ruth Ozeki

8. A book by an author from Africa:
We Need New Names by NoViolet Bulawayo
Zarah the Windseeker by Nnedi Okorafor
The Fishermen by Chigozie Obioma

9. A book by or about someone from an indigenous culture: 
The Bone People by Keri Hulme

10. A microhistory: 
Desire and Disaster in New Orleans: Tourism, Race and Historical Memory by Lynnell L. Thomas
Liar, Temptress, Soldier Spy: Four Women Undercover in the Civil War by Karen Abbott
 Flapper: A Madcap Story of Sex, Style, Celebrity and the Women Who Made America Modern 
by Joshua Zeitz
The Girls of Atomic City: The Untold Story of the Women Who Helped Win World War II 
by Denise Kiernan
Rats: Observations on the History and Habitat of the City's Most Unwanted Inhabitants 
by Robert Sullivan
The Great New Orleans Kidnapping Case: Race, Law, and Justice in the Reconstruction Era
 by Michael A. Ross


11. A YA novel: 
Paper Towns by John Green
The Wicked Will Rise by Danielle Page
Shadowshaper by Daniel José Older
Scarlet and Cress by Marissa Meyer 
Chanda's Secret by Allan Stratton
Coraline by Neil Gaiman

12. A sci-fi novel: 
Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel
Neuromancer by William Gibson
MADDADDAM by Margaret Atwood
Something Wicked This Way Comes by Ray Bradbury

13. A romance novel: 
The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty by Anne Rice
The Queen's Lover by Francine Du Plessix Gray


14. A National Book Award, Man Booker Prize or Pulitzer from the last decade: 
All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr (Pulitzer)
Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel (Man Booker)
Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodsen (National Book Award for Young People's Lit)
Head Off and Split by Nikky Finney (National Book Award--Poetry)

15. A book that is a retelling of a classic story: 
Boy, Snow, Bird by Helen Oyeyemi (retelling of Snow White)
The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman (The Jungle Book)
Cinder by Marissa Meyer (Cinderella)
ODY-C Vol. 1: Off to Far Ithicaa by Matt Fraction (The Odyssey)
Poison by Sarah Pinborough (Snow White)
The Rose and the Beast: Fairy Tales Retold by Francesca Lia Block (various)

16. An audiobook: 
Voices and Poetry of Ireland (a collection)

17. A collection of poetry: 
Once by Alice Walker
Horses Make a Landscape Look More Beautiful by Alice Walker
The Weary Blues by Langston Hughes
Thrall by Natasha Tretheway
Selected Poems by Gwendolyn Brooks

18. A book that someone else recommended to you: 
Pastrix: The Cranky, Beautiful Faith of a Sinner and Saint by Nadia Bolz-Weber

19. A book originally published in another language:
Beautiful Darkness by Fabien Vehlmann (French)
Chronicle of a Death Foretold by Gabriel Garcia Marquez (Spanish)
Buddha's Little Finger by Victor Pelevin (Russian)
An Illiad by Alessandro Baricco (Italian)

20. A graphic novel, memoir or collection of comics: 
Captain Marvel, Vol. 1 by Kelly Sue Deconnick
Sandman, Vols. 1 and 2 by Neil Gaiman
Batgirl, Vol. 1 by Gail Simone
The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen, Vol. 1 by Alan Moore
Nevermore: A Graphic Novel Anthology of Edgar Allan Poe's Short Stories
Ms. Marvel, Vol. 1: No Normal, Vol. 2: Generation Why and Vol. 3: Crushed by G. Willow Wilson
Thor: Goddess of ThunderVol. 1; Who Holds the Hammer, Vol. 2 by Jason Aaron
Saga, Vol. 1 by Brian K. Vaughan
Just So Happens by Fumio Obata
Griffin and Sabine: Book 1 and Sabine's Notebook: Book 2 by Nick Bantock
March: Books 1-2 by Rep. John Lewis
Dominique Laveau, Voodoo Child: Requiem by Selwyn Seyfu Hinds
The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl, Vol. 1 by Ryan North
Fables, Vol 1: Legends in Exile and Vol. 2: Animal Farm by Bill Willingham
Wicked and the Divine, Vol. 1: The Faust Act and Vol. 2: Fandemonium by Kieron Gillen
Hyperbole and a Half by Allie Brosch
American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang
The Harlem Hellfighters by Max Brooks
21. A guilty pleasure: 
The Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert 
A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness

22. A book published before 1850: Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens
Twelve Years a Slave by Solomon Northrup (actually 1853, but close)

23. A book published this year: 
The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins (Jan. release date)
 Find Me by Laura van den Berg (Feb.)
The Gracekeepers by Kirsty Logan (May)
Go Set a Watchman by Harper Lee (July)

24. A self-improvement book: 
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport

I also read: The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henríquez, Annie John by Jamaica Kincaid


Friday, November 27, 2015

Rabbit Hole #25: The Author A-Z Tag

Felt the need to do something bookish...

As with the Be a Good Human Tag, the Author A-Z Tag was created by Jen Campbell on BookTube. The premise is simple: go through your shelves, choosing an author's surname for each letter of the alphabet and highlight one book. If you don't have an author for a letter, choose one from your to be read pile.

There are a few I haven't read, but I highly recommend all of these. For brevity's sake, I'm just going to list titles/authors.

A: Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

B: Possession by A. S. Byatt

C: The Hours by Michael Cunningham

D: Krik? Krak? by Edwidge Danticat

E: The Master Butcher's Singing Club by Louise Erdrich

F: The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

G: Banana Rose by Natalie Goldberg

H: The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henríquez

I: The Beasts of No Nation by Uzodinman Iweala

J: When She Woke by Hillary Jordan

K: The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver

L: The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri

M: The Woman Upstairs by Claire Messud

N: Abundance by Sarah Naslund

O: Shadowshaper by Daniel José Older

P: Complete Stories by Dorothy Parker

Q: Silver Linings Playbook by Matthew Quick

R: Pandora by Anne Rice

S: White Teeth by Zadie Smith

T: The Gate to Women's Country by Sheri Tepper

U: Into the Beautiful North by Luis Alberto Urrea (on my to-be-read list)

V: The Enchanted April by Elizabeth Von Arnim

W: The Temple of My Familiar by Alice Walker

X: The Last Lover by Can Xue (on my to-be-read list)

Y: Land of Love and Drowning by Tiphanie Yanique (on my to-be-read list)

Z: The Book Thief by Markus Zuzak



Thursday, November 26, 2015

Thankful

Just a short, sappy note today as we head out to our Thanksgiving dinner:

To my readers--thank you for taking a few minutes to read my brain droppings every so often! It isn't easy sharing thoughts in such a public forum, and I really appreciate it.

To our friends and family back in Nebraska: Even though some of you weren't particularly happy with us moving to New Orleans, you understood why we had to do it, and that means the world. I miss you all, and if I could just move every one of you down here, things would be perfect.

To our new Louisiana "family"--I can't say enough about all of you amazing people who opened your homes and hearts to us and have made us feel loved. You made this move so easy, and I will forever be grateful to you.

Most of all, I'm thankful for my wonderful husband, who knew I needed adventure and a change, and was willing to do whatever necessary to make my dream of being a Southern girl a reality. I can never thank you enough--I love you.


I hope all of you are safe and surrounded by loved ones today, and spare some time for those who aren't as fortunate.

Happy Thanksgiving!


Monday, November 23, 2015

Why "Terrorism" Doesn't Scare Me

Yesterday, 16 people were shot at a playground here after a second line parade.

Since yesterday morning (Nov. 22, 2015), 13 people in the United States have been shot and killed in gun-related violence. 54 people in that same time period, including yesterday's 16, were injured by guns.

Three women are killed by their partners every day.

In the last decade, over 320, 000 Americans have been killed by gun violence in the United States.

There have been just over 300 Americans killed in what we call terror attacks in the last decade.


I am not worried about Syrian refugees coming to this country, trying to escape the terror and violence in their homeland. Refugees who, under the current law, have to wait 18 months before they can enter this country because of all the background checks and interviews they have to undergo.

We're a bigger danger to ourselves than they are.

I'm much more worried about white males with delusions of white supremacy shooting up movie theaters, or schools, or churches, or blowing up federal buildings.

Not women and children.

You can call me naive, or a bleeding heart, or unAmerican. I don't think it's naive to believe the best in people, and it's VERY American to help those in need.

We have to stop the culture of fear and hate in this country and realize who the true enemies are.

Sometimes, that means looking in the mirror.



Celebrate the Little Things

(I thought I posted this yesterday, but apparently not.)

One of the (many) things that I love about living in New Orleans is the fact that there is always something to do here: whether it's taking in one of the amazing art museums or galleries, walking in Audubon or City Park, strolling through the French Quarter on a beautiful afternoon, listening to music on the streets or in the clubs or in the concert venues...the list goes on and on.

And the festivals. There is literally a festival every single weekend here. There is even a special festival calendar so that people can keep track of them all, and they have actually started denying permits to hold new ones because there just isn't any more room. Most of the festivals are free (minus food/drink, of course), so anyone can go spend a few hours looking at art, listening to amazing local music, bumping in to friends old and new.

Of course, everyone has heard of Jazz Fest and Carnival season. But down here we also have:

Oak St. Po'Boy Fest (where we hung out today)
French Quarter Fest
Louisiana Cajun and Zydeco Fest
White and Dirty Linen Nights
Crescent City Blues and BBQ Fest
Tremé Creole Gumbo Fest (last weekend--amazing!)
Tales of the Cocktail
New Orleans Seafood Festival
Tennessee Williams Festival
New Orleans Film Festival
Running of the Bulls
Bastille Day
Essence Fest
Satchmo SummerFest
Bayou Boogaloo

The list goes on and on and on and...well, you get the picture.

This town celebrates life. The little things. The big things. The things that seem insignificant (Creole tomatoes and mirlitons, anyone?).

With everything that goes on in our lives, in the world, we tend to forget what we have. Life isn't perfect, of course, and everything has a dark side. But this town reminds us that every day has something worth celebrating.

Satchmo SummerFest

Tremé Creole Gumbo Festival
Southern Decadence

Running of the Bulls
Oak St. Po'Boy Fest
(All photo credits are mine.)


Saturday, November 21, 2015

Reflection

I had to take the past few days off. Things have gotten so crazy in the world, culminating with the hateful rhetoric from some Republicans and citizens in this country, that I was at a loss.

I honestly don't know what to say any more. I feel as if I'm repeating myself every day, telling people to be kind to each other, to stop the culture of fear and hate we seem to be spiraling in. And this fear and hate is in every aspect of our society--women's rights, LGBTQIA rights, religion, race; the list goes on and on.

What has brought us to this point where people find it so easy to hate each other?

I'm not naive to think that things have ever been perfect; in fact, in a lot of areas, things have never been great, except to whites looking on. But it seems so common place to find posts and news reports filled with some of the most despicable. I've actually lost a lot of respect for some people I've known for a long time.

I have no problem with open discussions. I have no problems with differing opinions. Some of my nearest and dearest are on the opposite side of a lot of issues from me. But when you start talking about hating another group of people, about refusing to help others in desperate need, about rounding people up in camps and making them wear identification, and closing down places of worship and you see absolutely nothing wrong in that? (And you call yourself a Christian?!?) When you refuse to talk about gun control when white males commit most of the mass murders in this country, and yet you're refuse to help people fleeing from annihilation because they "might" commit acts of terror? And accuse my loved ones of treason because they refuse to engage in fear-mongering and hate?

Those are not the type of people I want in my life. Or in my country, quite frankly. Those words go against everything we should stand for as Americans, as imperfect as we are.




Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Once again

It doesn't take much to make me an emotional wreck.

That may seem really cheesy to say, but it's true. When disaster strikes, I am only able to absorb the news/social media/conversations, etc., for a limited amount of time before I have to crawl into my shell and regroup. 

At the same time, I know I am extremely lucky and privileged to be able to do that. So many people in the world, and in this country, can't shut off disaster, because it is with them every day, every year. They are living it, physically, or are scarred by it mentally. I can sit in my house and sympathize, and then retreat to heal myself, because I have that advantage. 

It's not enough. 

I listen, trying to understand the other person's perspective, knowing full well I can never truly comprehend their situation. 

I read, educating myself on history, culture, micro-aggressions, violence, racism, so that I can speak more intelligently on subjects when discussing them, especially with other white people. 

I want to do more. So I keep trying. Keep empathizing. Keep reading. Keep listening. 

What I don't understand is how people don't try. How they can see children suffering in the streets, sleeping outside, haunted by bullets and death, and how they say, "Not my problem." "Not here." 

We have a lot of problems in this country, yes. But we've always told ourselves we had hearts big enough for others as well. I just wish more people would actually live by the words they say they believe in. 


Sending prayers, comfort, and love to the victims in Nigeria today. I only wish they would receive the same attention as their counterparts in Paris. 








Monday, November 16, 2015

NaBloPoMo Update

So, as I found out, there is a equivalent for NaNoWriMo for bloggers, which is NaBloPoMo, or National Blog Post Month. I've been participating, unofficially, this month just to get myself back into writing on a regular basis. Now, halfway through, here are some reflections:

1. Coming up with topics to write about every day is usually pretty difficult. Unfortunately, world and national events right now keep throwing things my way. I would like to write about more bookish things, but my heart is elsewhere right now.

2.  I'm seriously contemplating two blogs: one for reading/bookish posts, and the other for more personal/social posting. I just feel as if this blog doesn't really have a topical focus. But maybe that's ok, too. I have a variety of interests and leanings, so maybe this blog should reflect that as well.

3.  It scares me to share some of my ideas in this format because it makes one vulnerable and open to attack. I've been extremely lucky and haven't had to deal with the hatred that some of my fellow female bloggers have, and saddened that people are attacked daily for expressing themselves.

4. It's crazy to me to think that there are people who read everything I'm writing on here. Especially when I realize I'm sharing my ideas with literally the entire world. I have had readers from England, Ireland, France, Germany, Portugal, Russia, just to name a few. I'm not sure what draws you to my blog, but I appreciate the support from the bottom of my heart!

4.  It's ok if you miss a day (or two). Last week I didn't write for two days because one of my dearest friends stopped to spend some time on her way to Florida. That was much more important than posting. Perspective is important.

5. I start and delete more posts than I actually publish.

6. I've been enjoying this much more than I thought.


Sunday, November 15, 2015

Selective Hearing

We hear the cries
from France
News cycles devoted
to tragedy,
to the lives lost,
to the terrorists who
invaded our quiet lives
again.

We change our pictures to
red white blue
Vow solidarity
Forgetting about
"freedom fries"
at least, for now.

The world coming
together,
United against hate.
It's a beautiful thing
to see.

But where is our unity
for Beirut?
for Iraq?
for Syria?
for Kenya?
Hundreds of voices
silenced each day,
but no flags fly in those colors
across our profiles.

The news
mentions those tragedies
then moves on,
to other
"more important"
stories.

Where is our union
against the hundreds of lives lost
here
in this country
to violence
every week?

What makes a country worthy
of having the news
devoted to those lost?

What makes a life worthy
of such attention?

How do we choose who to mourn?

Why do we choose who to mourn?





Saturday, November 14, 2015

Rabbit Hole #24: The Be a Good Human Tag

Several months ago, the amazing Jen Campbell, author of Weird Things Customers Say in Bookshops (or Bookstores, if you have the American version, because apparently we wouldn't know what a bookshop was? Silly publishers) posted a BookTube video called the Be a Good Human Tag. In it, she showcased several books she felt make people open their eyes to the world around them and understand the humanity around us.

Books have the ability to change the way we look at people. They allow us to empathize with those who are different from us, learn about other cultures, understand history, and so much more. No other medium quite has the same effect.

So in the wake of everything that has been happening in the United States and around the world this past year (and of course, much longer), I thought I would create my own list. In no particular order, I present a snapshot of the following:

Nine Lives by David Baum: This is a nonfiction book chronicling the lives of nine New Orleanians from Hurricane Betsy through Hurricane Katrina. The individuals come from all walks of life: rich, poor, black, white, gay, and straight. They all cope with the tragedies in different ways, but they are all transformed by what happens. For those who don't truly know what happened here during the storm, this will open your eyes.

Citizen by Claudia Rankine: Part poetry, part essay, part photographic essay, this is a fierce look at race relations in America today. Rankine pulls no punches with this one, but this is not a topic we should shy away from. A must read for anyone who cares about our country today.

The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver: A beautifully written book about the negative impact of colonialism, this also tackles the dangers of trying to impose one's beliefs on others. Told through the perspectives of four young women and their mother as they are carted off to the Congo in the 1950s by their zealot missionary father, Kingsolver tackles American foreign policy, gender issues, religion, and a host of other topics.

Native Son by Richard Wright: The oldest book on this list, but still a necessary one, Wright's dark tale of Bigger Thomas, a young black man trapped by economic circumstances, resonates even today. Some people like to believe that all one has to do is work hard, and he'll get ahead; Wright shows that there are larger forces working against people in America, and against minorities in particular.

March Vols. 1-2 by Rep. John Lewis: One of the best graphic novel series I've read, this is Rep. Lewis' autobiography of his time in the Civil Rights Movement. While it's useful as a history, it's also insightful into what is going on today as we continue to tackle racial discrimination in this country. The more things change...

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saénz: The story of two young Hispanic boys growing up and discovering their sexuality, this YA novel is heartbreaking as well as beautiful. I think my favorite part of this novel is the way the parents are portrayed; they are fierce and loving, regardless of who their boys are.

Whistling Vivaldi by Claude M. Steele: This book is an in-depth look at stereotypes and how they affect each and every one of us on a daily basis. It's a thorough analysis of microaggressions, and how/why they are so hard to overcome.

A Constellation of Vital Phenomena by Anthony Marra: This is a gut-wrenching book about the horrors of war, both for the people directly involved and those on the fringes. It takes place in Chechnya in 2004, where war is still tearing people's lives apart. Americans as a whole have very little knowledge of what it is like to live in a war-torn country and have no idea what they would have to do to survive.

Zami: A New Spelling of My Name by Audre Lorde: This is Lorde's autobiography of growing up poor, black and gay, and an ode to all of the women who shaped her into the person she became. This is one of the most powerful autobiographies I've read.

Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Nafisi: Nafisi created a book club for women in Tehran, Iran, to expose them to Western classics. While that may not seem like much, one has to realize that Western books had been banned, and the women were literally taking their lives in their hands to read and attend these sessions. Part book discussion, part memoir, the books and these women's lives intertwine and show just how powerful literature is.

The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henríquez: I want to give this book to every person I hear disparaging immigrants--they seem to forget that these are human beings, with families and circumstances not that different from our own. The novel follows several families from Mexico and Latin America as they try to find a life in America. Some are undocumented, some have work visas, some are citizens, but all have very particular reasons for their journeys.


I could continue on and on with this list, and I know I didn't do these books justice. Please, just take some time to read. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone and learn about other peoples, places, religions, cultures, etc. The worst thing that will happen is that you'll expand your mind and learn that all humans are struggling, and we are better together.








Friday, November 13, 2015

Numb

Tonight, like most of the world, I'm numb. I've been glued to the news, listening to the latest devastating reports out of Paris, and this just a day after the terrible bombings in Beirut.

Another senseless attack.

More people killed.

More people using the incident to advance their xenophobic and racist agendas.


How much more hatred and bloodshed will we tolerate as a global society?

Why is it so easy for us to hate someone who is different from us?

Why do we feel the need to silence others?


Why is it so impossible to come up with answers?

Why do we keep hitting repeat?


Why?




Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Try empathy.

Why is it so hard to have empathy?

The following are some statements heard every day in this country:

All immigrants are illegals. 

All Muslims are terrorists. 

Gay people just want to turn everyone gay. 

People on welfare or minimum wage just need to work harder. 

If you're homeless, you're an alcoholic or a junkie. 

Black people don't care about family. 

And the list goes on and on....

We're all guilty of it. We say things, or assume things, about people every day, and never realize the negative atmosphere we are contributing to. 

We spend so much time demonizing others that we never step back and try to see things from their perspective. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has an amazing TED Talk about the dangers of just seeing people from one lens, about insisting that each person has a single story about him or herself. When we refuse to see a person as a sum of their parts, and insist that we "know" about them because of one aspect of who they are, we are denying them their humanity.

This lack of empathy is at the root of all of our problems as a country, and as a world.

We're so focused on the sound bite, the snapshot, that we forget to truly see people for who they are, and it makes us that much poorer for it.

It takes so little to listen to people.

Just. Listen.









Monday, November 9, 2015

Good for Mizzou

Good for Mizzou. Those are honestly words I never thought I would say in my lifetime. As a Husker fan, there is no love lost between our two programs. There have been contentious situations with fans, some of them ending less than sportsmanlike.

But there are things much more important. Today, Missouri's President Tim Wolfe and Chancellor announced their resignations following months of a lackluster, almost non-response to student complaints of racism. The protest began earlier this fall, culminating a week ago with a hunger strike by Jonathan Butler, a black graduate student, and the announcement that Missouri's black football players, with full support from their coaching staff and teammates, would not practice or participate in any games until Wolfe stepped down.

The cynic in me believes that had the football team not taken that step, Butler would probably be hospitalized as a result of his hunger strike, and the status quo would remain the same. Things weren't moving forward in terms of resolving the issues. Wolfe basically said that "systemic oppression just meant you didn't think you were getting the same opportunities," an incredibly tone deaf sentiment to the very real oppression that happens to individuals every single day based on nothing more than skin color. Media coverage was also basically non-existent, until the team made their announcement. Suddenly, everyone knew about Mizzou.

Slate's Jessica Huseman came to a similar conclusion in her article today, "Should It Really Take a Football Team to Force Change on Campus?" She discusses the fact that the issues should have been resolved long before the team became involved, and seemed a little surprised, it seemed to me, that it would take a football team to change things.

It's not that surprising, though. Missouri stood to lose one million dollars if the team forfeited on Saturday. Money still rules the world, and it's a lesson the Civil Rights leaders of the 1950s and 60s knew well. The Montgomery Bus Boycotts worked because they disrupted the economics of the system. Find the people to protest, and cause people to lose the almighty dollar, and things get changed.

We have a long way to go in this country before we are truly equal, and there are many more battles to be fought. I hate that it takes such crude steps for people to do what is right. But in this case, it worked, and hopefully with a new administration, progress can begin at the school.

So, good for you, Mizzou. You've made the nation proud.


Sunday, November 8, 2015

Fandom

Anyone who knows me knows my love of football. I can easily waste a Saturday and Sunday watching, even if my Huskers or Saints aren't playing (that may be a reason some of those to do lists are harder to accomplish during the fall...hmmm).

Lately, though, there has been a lot of chatter about "true" fans versus "fair weather" fans making the rounds on social media. These conversations seem to turn normally logical people into raving maniacs, as the "true" fans try to disparage those they deem unworthy of being fans.

Here's my take:

If you consistently root for your team, win or lose, you're a true fan. If you constructively criticize the coaching staff, administration, or players for obviously poor play or strategy because you want to see the team get better, you're still a true fan. You can still love something and see its flaws. It doesn't mean you love it any less. 

If you only cheer for a team when they are winning and refuse to support them during the down times, then you're a fair weather fan. If you only care how a team does because of your fantasy team, you may be a fair weather fan.

And if you constantly run down other fans and call them fair weather fans because they dare criticize your team/coach, then maybe you need something else to do with your time. Root for your team, enjoy their success, commiserate with their losses, and know that other fans feel the same. They just may not express it in the same way you do.

But...if you go on social media and rip college kids or send them death threats, you're not a fan at all. You're just an asshole.



Saturday, November 7, 2015

Lists...

I make a lot of lists:

Daily to do lists

To read lists (this one is ridiculously long...)

Goals lists

Grocery lists (when I remember...sigh)

Target lists (you can never just stop in for one thing!)

To grade lists (ugh)

Wish lists

Future things to do lists

Travel lists


My biggest problem with lists? Actually following through with them. Some are easy to keep and update, like my reading and wish lists. Some are pathetically difficult for me to follow. The daily to do and grade lists are the tough ones, mainly because there are so many activities I'd rather be doing. I know life would run more smoothly if I just checked things off, but there's always something else I'd rather be doing. There are also certain things on my list that simply move from day to day, nagging at me, but never being accomplished. Those mobile items, though, need to get done. Yoga. Gym. Things for myself that I always seem to find reasons to avoid.  I'm not sure what I'm afraid of, why these linger, undone, day after day after day after day. I'm proving to myself that I can set a concrete goal and follow through, so why are those so difficult?

Tomorrow: a new day, a new list.

A new chance.

That's the best part about lists.







Friday, November 6, 2015

"Some of us just belong here."

John Goodman has said what I have often tried to explain to people:



There have been two places in this world that I have felt instantly at home. One is Ireland, the second, of course, New Orleans. Both places have an instant calming effect on me, accepting me as if I have always belonged there. Just stepping off the plane on visits to New Orleans, my stress would slip away, leaving me feeling more alive. This feeling was a large part behind us moving south--I simply couldn't be away from this place anymore.

New Orleans isn't for everyone. She's beautiful, but dangerous. As I've said before, her beauty comes as much from her flaws as it does the physical landscape. But I think that's part of her charm--she's almost human; she's like all of us, the light and the dark.

I've often thought of friends and family members and wonder: Will they get it? Will they understand the craving for this place that I have? Will they see the beauty in the cracked sidewalks, dive bars, and massive live oaks? In the cities of the dead, the second lines, the constant festivals, our beloved Saints? Or will they only see the poverty and the decay, and notice the smell of the canals and Bourbon Street (which I will always say is better than cow manure!) Some will and feel the urge to return again and again. The city will be in their soul.

I know this post isn't doing the city I love justice. It's almost too complicated to put into words. There's just a feeling here--you either get it, or you don't.

One of my dearest friends calls the people who truly understand and love New Orleans "the true believers," regardless of how long one has lived here. I know New Orleans is not for everyone, but for a lot of us, even if we try, there's no other place we can be. 

Thursday, November 5, 2015

It's a bird...It's a plane...

Xena the Warrior Princess: 1995-2001

Buffy the Vampire Slayer: 1997-2003

The Halliwell Sisters (Charmed): 1998-2006

When I was in college and my early twenties, kickass women were the norm on television. While they all had their faults, and yes, sometimes had cheesy romances, they fought for the greater good and weren't afraid to get their hands dirty or have a few punches thrown their way. They were smart, strong, vibrant women who were role models for an entire generation.

And then, they disappeared.

For the past decade, there has a been a void in the realm of female "superheroes" for all people to look up to. Fans have been clamoring for a Wonder Woman movie, or a Black Widow movie, only to be told, essentially, that female action heroes don't sell tickets. But a third reboot of Spiderman, or a second reboot of The Hulk or Superman, or another Avengers movie? No problem.

I'm not saying anything against those movies; I know they have a very avid fan base, but representation is important.

All women have a right to see themselves on the small and large screen. In all aspects, including superheroes. To say that those stories aren't important or worthwhile is to say women aren't important.

Which is why I'm glad, on the small screen at least, we're starting to see those stories again. Sleepy Hollow, Agent Carter, Once Upon a Time, and the new Supergirl series are intelligent, fun, popular shows with strong female leads. I would love to see those shows, or new shows, branch out to include more women of color (Sleepy Hollow is leading the way on this!) or LGBTQIA characters, to break the white privilege that is evident. But it's a start.

Women are superheroes every day. It's time to end here the all-boys superhero club.


**Note: Obviously, I'm talking strictly about shows with an action hero/superhero basis to them. There are a lot of other shows out there with tough, smart, and fabulous women leads!


Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Stuck

Sigh.

Day four, and I'm stuck.

Writer's block.

I've started four posts and deleted them all because they just don't seem authentic today. They seem forced, stilted, and just plain bad.

I knew this wasn't going to be easy; it's been a long time since I've made daily writing a priority.

I just didn't think I'd hit a wall already.

I know I should just write something, anything, and post it, just to be writing, but I keep hearing the voices in the back of my head:

You can't do this. 

You're crazy for even thinking you can do this. 

You're not a writer. 

You don't want people to judge you. 

Your writing is horrible; no one is going to want to read what you have to say. 

I'm surprised they're as loud as they are today. It's only day four. 

How do I make them shut up? 

How do writers do this every day? Will I be able to do this every day?










Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Rabbit Hole #23--October Reading Wrap-Up

This month was a tough one for my reading. It seemed to take me forever to get through things; as a matter of fact, there's still one book I started at the end of September that I'm trying to finish. I don't know if I'd call it a reading slump, exactly; it was more of the feeling I was moving through molasses. Maybe it's the weather, or that fact that I'm squarely in the middle of the semester and would really just like to curl up in a blanket fort and not come out for the next few weeks!

That all being said, here's some of the highlights from the past month (If you want to see everything I read, you can go here: Rabbit Hole #22: Read Harder Challenge 2015 Update--October).

1. I finished the Read Harder Challenge two months ahead of schedule!! As I said in that post, I'm going to continue to add to the list for November and December, so I can see my progress. It has definitely been good for me and my reading, and I'm looking forward to doing it again next year.

2. The last task I had on that list was a National Book Award, Man Booker Prize, or Pulitzer Prize winner from the past decade. Unfortunately, this is where I stepped in the molasses. I WANTED to love Hilary Mantel's Wolf Hall, I really, really did. I usually love stories about England's past and all the infighting and craziness (both literal and figurative) that goes along with histories of the monarchs. But this just left me...bleh. I didn't care about any of the characters; in fact, besides Henry VIII, Thomas Cromwell, and Anne, everyone else bled together. Even those three seemed to be just caricatures of themselves. And at over 500 pages, it took everything I had to get through it. I do have the sequel, Bring Up the Bodies, which also won the Man Booker Prize, but it's going to be a while before I pick that one up.

3. Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa by Rigoberto González:
This was my favorite read of the month. González's memoir is a poignant reflection of growing up on both sides of the Mexican/American border, dealing with being part of the migrant community and the prejudice that comes along with that particular situation. It's also a heartwarming, and heartbreaking, tale of a young man coming to terms with his sexuality, particularly in a culture that prizes machismo. It's a quick read and well worth your time. 

4. The Wicked and the Divine, Vols. 1-2 by Kieron Gillan:
Every ninety years, twelve gods come back to Earth. There's only one catch--they only have two years to live once their immortal identities are revealed, inspiring a cult-like following by humans, who flock to them for their short reign. This is a beautifully drawn diverse comic, and the gods are pulled from a variety of religions which all helps to make this my new favorite comic series. 

Here's hoping November turns out better reading-wise. I have several volumes of contemporary poetry and some interesting novels sitting by my bedside, staring at me. 



Monday, November 2, 2015

NaNoWriMo--sort of

My favorite November "fad" isn't No Shave November. It's not Movember. It's not even the 30 days of blessings.

It's NaNoWriMo. 

For those of you who don't know, NaNoWriMo stands for National Novel Writing Month. Every year, thousands of people sign up to write 50, 000 words, roughly the length of a standard novel, in the month of November. It's now in its 16th year, and doesn't show any signs of slowing down. 

While I've never actually participated, I've lived vicariously through friends who have undertaken the challenge. I love seeing what all of those amazing minds create in just 30 short days. Of course, just writing that much doesn't guarantee a novel. It definitely doesn't guarantee a GOOD novel, one that will be picked up by publishers at the end of November and skyrocket to the top of the bestseller lists. (There are definitely exceptions, though: Sara Gruen's Water for Elephants, Marissa Meyer's Lunar Chronicles series, Rainbow Rowell's Fangirl, and my personal favorite, Erin Morgenstern's Night Circus, all started out as NaNoWriMo projects). 

For me, I'm starting small this year. My goal is to write a blog post a day--I'm not going to aim for a certain word count, just getting back into the habit of writing daily. It's something I used to do, but for one reason or another, I quit. And just like eating right, exercising, and other habits, once you stop, it's hard to get back to a schedule. 

I'm not sure what these posts will consist of. Some will be reading updates, of course; some will be observations of our new life here in New Orleans. The others? They'll be a surprise to us both. 

And then, who knows: maybe next year will be my novel year!


**So I found out there is actually a name for what I'm doing: NaBloPoMo--National Blog Posting Month. Who would have guessed? 



Sunday, November 1, 2015

Rabbit Hole #22: Read Harder Challenge 2015 Update--October

Well, I have officially FINISHED the Book Riot Read Harder Challenge 2015!!! Whoohooo!! I'm going to keep adding to it for the next two months, though, just to see where my reading leads me. This has been a really fun and worthwhile experiment because I have been able to see where my strengths are in reading diversely and where my weaknesses have been (I'll write more about that in a later post, however.)  

Here's my list so far:  
(This month's reads are in blue.)

1. A book written by someone when they were under 25: 
Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

2. A book written by someone when they were over the age of 65: 
God Help the Child by Toni Morrison
Lucrezia Borgia by Sarah Bradford

3. A collection of short stories:
Ten Little Indians by Sherman Alexie
Krik? Krak! by Edwidge Danticat

4. A book published by an indie press: 
The Salt Roads by Nalo Hopkinson (Open Roads Media Sci-Fi and Fantasy)
Citizen: An American Lyric by Claudia Rankine (Grey Wolf Press)

5. A book by or about someone who identifies as LGBTQIA: 
We Are the Animals by Justin Torres
Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz
Golden Boy by Abigail Tarttelin
Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa by Rigoberto González

6. A book by someone of a different gender than you: 
Shooting Victoria: Madness, Mayhem, and the Rebirth of the British Monarchy 
by Paul Thomas Murphy 
Half-Resurrection Blues by Daniel José Older
Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman

7. A book that takes place in Asia: 
The Lowland by Jhumpa Lahiri
A Tale for the Time Being by Ruth Ozeki

8. A book by an author from Africa:
We Need New Names by NoViolet Bulawayo
Zarah the Windseeker by Nnedi Okorafor

9. A book by or about someone from an indigenous culture: 
The Bone People by Keri Hulme

10. A microhistory: 
Desire and Disaster in New Orleans: Tourism, Race and Historical Memory by Lynnell L. Thomas
Liar, Temptress, Soldier Spy: Four Women Undercover in the Civil War by Karen Abbott
 Flapper: A Madcap Story of Sex, Style, Celebrity and the Women Who Made America Modern 
by Joshua Zeitz
The Girls of Atomic City: The Untold Story of the Women Who Helped Win World War II 
by Denise Kiernan
Rats: Observations on the History and Habitat of the City's Most Unwanted Inhabitants 
by Robert Sullivan
The Great New Orleans Kidnapping Case: Race, Law, and Justice in the Reconstruction Era 
by Michael A. Ross

11. A YA novel: 
Paper Towns by John Green
The Wicked Will Rise by Danielle Page
Shadowshaper by Daniel José Older
Scarlet by Marissa Meyer 
Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodsen

12. A sci-fi novel: 
Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel
Neuromancer by William Gibson
MADDADDAM by Margaret Atwood
Something Wicked This Way Comes by Ray Bradbury

13. A romance novel: The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty by Anne Rice
The Queen's Lover by Francine Du Plessix Gray

14. A National Book Award, Man Booker Prize or Pulitzer from last decade: Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel

15. A book that is a retelling of a classic story: 
Boy, Snow, Bird by Helen Oyeyemi (retelling of Snow White)
The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman (The Jungle Book)
Cinder by Marissa Meyer (Cinderella)
ODY-C Vol. 1: Off to Far Ithicaa by Matt Fraction (The Odyssey)

16. An audiobook: 
Voices and Poetry of Ireland (a collection)

17. A collection of poetry: 
Once by Alice Walker
Horses Make a Landscape Look More Beautiful by Alice Walker
The Weary Blues by Langston Hughes

18. A book that someone else recommended to you: 
Pastrix: The Cranky, Beautiful Faith of a Sinner and Saint by Nadia Bolz-Weber

19. A book originally published in another language:
Beautiful Darkness by Fabien Vehlmann (French)
Chronicle of a Death Foretold by Gabriel Garcia Marquez (Spanish)

20. A graphic novel, memoir or collection of comics: 
Captain Marvel, Vol. 1 by Kelly Sue Deconnick
Sandman, Vols. 1 and 2 by Neil Gaiman
Batgirl, Vol. 1 by Gail Simone
The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen, Vol. 1 by Alan Moore
Nevermore: A Graphic Novel Anthology of Edgar Allan Poe's Short Stories
Ms. Marvel, Vol. 1: No Normal, Vol. 2: Generation Why, and Vol. 3: Crushed by G. Willow Wilson
Thor: Goddess of ThunderVol. 1; Who Holds the Hammer, Vol. 2 by Jason Aaron
Saga, Vol. 1 by Brian K. Vaughan
Just So Happens by Fumio Obata
Griffin and Sabine: Book 1 and Sabine's Notebook: Book 2 by Nick Bantock
March: Books 1-2 by Rep. John Lewis
Dominique Laveau, Voodoo Child: Requiem by Selwyn Seyfu Hinds
The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl, Vol. 1 by Ryan North
Fables, Vol 1: Legends in Exile and Vol. 2: Animal Farm by Bill Willingham
The Wicked and the Divine, Vols. 1-2: The Faust Act and Fandemonium by Kieron Gillen
Hyperbole and a Half by Allie Brosch

21. A guilty pleasure: 
The Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert 
A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness

22. A book published before 1850: Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens
Twelve Years a Slave by Solomon Northrup (actually 1853, but close)

23. A book published this year: 
The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins (Jan. release date)
 Find Me by Laura van den Berg (Feb.)
The Gracekeepers by Kirsty Logan (May)
Go Set a Watchman by Harper Lee (July)

24. A self-improvement book: 
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo


I also read: Talulla Rising by Glen Duncan and Freakonomics by Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner